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The Truth: I’ve Been Stuck for Over a Decade

Jul 01, 2025

I’ve been stuck for over a decade—and I’m finally writing my way out.

It obviously starts with me. I’m still afraid of so much. I put so much pressure on myself to be something more—or I struggle to accept that.

I’m just me, and that it’s okay to be just me. I feel stuck in ways that hold me back, and I don’t fully understand why. But I feel it—deeply.

Like… what happened to the older version of me? The confidence? The self-acceptance? That sense of belonging to something greater?

I used to be proud of what I’d accomplished. But now, when I look back, I don’t even know why I hesitate to call them accomplishments. And that feeling just sucks.

Fear, Pressure, and the Stories I Tell Myself

Have you ever felt so afraid to be the best version of yourself that you stay in the safe, easy place instead? I’ve been doing that for over a decade.

I silently scream at myself, “Please, please, please—release whatever is holding me back!” Just give me the what and the why, so I can face it and move forward.

I’m exhausted from feeling this way. I know I have so much awesomeness to give. It drives me crazy.

What I Know About Myself (And Still Struggle With)

I’m a creative person. I have great ideas.

I’ve worked on amazing projects, helped develop businesses, and collaborated with some incredible people.

But when I try to start something new on my own, I’ll begin… then stop. Because finishing makes it real. And when it becomes real, that’s when fear of failure creeps in.

So, I freeze.

Even the Smallest Things Hold Weight

Here’s a fun one:

Embarrassing: sometimes I avoid finishing something as small as a product I’ve bought. Because if it’s gone, I have to replace it.

I know that sounds silly—like, “Traci, just buy another one.” But something about not having it—even with a solution—stops me.

Yep, that’s a deeper layer of “the onion” I’ll need to peel back.

Why I’m Writing This Blog

I know this may sound ridiculous. But I promised myself this blog would be honest and real.

It’s a space to get out of my own head, write things down, be vulnerable, and toss it all into the universe with no expectations.

So, I’ll leave you with this…

The Moment That Sparked Everything

A few weeks ago, my phone must have been reading my mind because podcast clips about how I have been feeling started flooding my feed out of nowhere.

One caught my eye—A Process of Finding Purpose :Do THIS to Build the Life You Want with Mel Robbins and Jay Shetty.

At the 11:20 mark, they talk about the feeling of being stuck—and Jay breaks it down in a way I had never considered.

Hear it for yourself The clip that change everything for me

It wasn’t just eye-opening. It cracked something wide open.

I wouldn’t say I was “mind blown”—more like soul rattled. Whatever that feeling was, multiply it by a thousand. That’s what hit me.

It was the wake-up I didn’t know I’d been waiting for.

Where I Am Now (And What I Hope Happens Here)

I am here, at 44, starting over, working on overcoming fear of failure and finding purpose again in my life.

My Ask to You

So, if you’re stuck—or have been—hang around. I am here, at 44, starting over, working on overcoming fear of failure and finding purpose again in my life.

Who knows? Maybe someone lands here and shares something that helps.

Someone may point us toward something worth listening to and we will learn something worth knowing.

Or maybe this is just where I tell my story—and that’s okay too.

Either way, it feels damn good to finally let this out.

If you’ve got a story, a lesson, or something that helped you through a traumatic time—share it.

You never know who it might help. And honestly? I can use the help.

Let’s Get Unstuck

This is a safe space—rooted in tough positivity, honest stories, and a shared search for real guidance that keeps us going.

🎧 Takeaway

Listen to A Process of Finding Purpose with Mel Robbins and Jay Shetty. It’s nearly 2hrs. Go for a walk. Play it on your next drive. Rewind the good parts.

This episode is the reason this blog exists.